Pamela Quekemeyer is the author of three books on the topic of anger management, and she is now the director of anger treatment at The Women’s Center in Birming…
Pamela Quekemeyer is the author of three books on the topic of anger management, and she is now the director of anger treatment at The Women’s Center in Birmingham, Alabama. The center, located in Birmingham, Alabama, provides comprehensive outpatient care for the women in need of professional anger management. Ms. Quekemeyer is a certified therapist, a licensed clinical social worker, and a licensed marriage and family therapist. The following article covers some of her strategies for anger management, and what makes her method so effective.
I believe that it is important to take a step back from our culture’s view of anger management and realize that anger is part of life. While it is not healthy to let ourselves become consumed with our emotions, it is not healthy to allow our emotions to control our lives and the lives of others. For this reason, I believe that we must learn to let go of our anger and learn to accept the fact that our anger will eventually fade away or else it will have an adverse affect on other aspects of our lives. The more we embrace a healthier view of anger management, the less likely we are to experience further issues or emotional damage.
Anger is like a muscle. We can exercise it and strengthen it, but unless it is properly maintained, it will eventually weaken or even stop us from functioning at full capacity. That is why it is so important to take a moment to reflect on our behaviors and expressions of anger. The most common areas for concern are: inappropriate anger, aggression, rage, and the use of physical force. If we are exhibiting any of these patterns, we need to make a conscious effort to change these behaviors. Sometimes just making the choice to do something different is enough to resolve the problem. In the end, it is important to choose a counselor who supports you as you work to maintain a healthier, more balanced view of anger and other behaviors.